Why Facebook is so depressing these days
If you’re like me, you spend a lot of your time on the internet and are constantly reading new things. You click on one link to the next to find yourself always taking in content of all types - from the weather to a sunken underwater art gallery to learning about why certain fonts don’t exist in certain languages to watching a kickstarter video to planning dinner reservations to looking at your google calendar to see that you have a call in the next 10 minutes to finding yourself on FB in the middle of doing twenty things at the same time. If you’re like me, you’re probably great at multitasking and also have your mouse’s setting to super fast tracking, super fast double-clicking and super fast scrolling. We are creatures born before the internet and now it is definitely a part of our daily lives. If you’re like me, you embrace technology and new things.
Let me tell you why FB is depressing to me. I’m thirty. I live in Brooklyn, NY. I love New York City. Yes, I spend a lot of my time on the computer, but I also spend a lot of my time not on it. I indulge in the real world. The friends I have, I love. The people I choose to spend my time with, I’ve made a conscious effort to do so. Time is scarce and hard, especially my own time. I’ve found recently, honestly within the past 6 months, that whenever I find myself on Facebook, I get off of it feeling rather depressed. If you know me, I’m definitely not a depressed person, but I found myself thinking so much more about Facebook and certain peoples lives, that I found myself trapped in this terrible spider web of “what if’s”. “Why is that person posting those pictures of themselves?” “Does that mean their dating now?!” “Was your day that terrible and are you that lonely that you are looking for someone to tell you it’s going to be okay online?” “Are people really liking the post where you described your feelings of your grandmother dying?” “Your first time to Disney-world and 40 pictures with the kids!? Really!?” “Okay, yes, I will like all of your dog photos” and the list goes on and on.
What is the level of success? Is success measured by how many people use something or is it in the way in which it is being used? Does being tasteful even count in this? Obviously not. This is why Facebook is depressing for me. It’s the same mundane things that you end up filling your head with and it becomes a part of your day. For some people, it even starts your day with all these conscious and subconscious thoughts. And still, we find it ridiculous that people have real conversations and fights about what so and so posted on Facebook. In this crazy way, Facebook has become a part of our lives, like our morning cup of coffee or tea or orange juice.
Are we confusing with what actually happened in real life to a picture someone posted on Facebook? Does that shit bother you? Or does it bother you because you missed it? Or does it bother you that things actually looked awesome via that one picture, but in real life it was fucking boring? That’s what Facebook is!! The content that is creates and the weird creepy need to go back and check on your narcissistic impulses. We’ll always have Facebook for that. I’m personally just over it and find it really depressing. There was a moment in my life where I was “addicted” to it, and then I had this self-realization that it was just not making me feel good. Like eating a lot of chocolate cake because it’s delicious, but then you look at your body and it’s not so delicious feeling or looking.
I took about a month off from Facebook this year, and I know that sounds like nothing, but if you’re like me you are/were one of those people that check it every morning, over 30 times a day, while you’re out, before you go to bed and when you wake up. It’s a part of your world and it weirdly, it was just not making you feel all that awesome.
I don’t know what Facebook is going to be become. Maybe it’ll stay what it is and just have these addicted people to it, posting about the things that make them sad or happy or just about nothing at all. Maybe it’ll just be that stalker tool for your next hire or crush? Maybe this just means that Facebook’s time is coming to an end because it’s just fill with such garbage and cutting into our personal space. The excitement dwindles into paranoia and feelings of depression?!! Maybe? I don’t know :) Maybe you just don’t care! (good for you!!!) I do tend to think people agree that once something goes main stream it loses it charm, it’s curation and it’s values. Things evolve all the time. That’s fine, it’s part of our ecosystem, but also our sense of self needs to be valued and we need to remember what’s important in our daily lives. Your personal space defines you and makes you a better person, and even a better person for other people in your life. If you’re like me, you should take a month or two off of Facebook, and then write a blog post about how you got over your FB addiction. Now I barely log in, but I’ll always share that silly picture of my dog, that yummy meal that I ate or that beautiful place that I travelled to.